I have been on the receiving and giving ends of discouraging words. Until this very moment I did not realize that long after speaking the words and silence has filled the room do those words echo in someone's mind continuing to create self doubt.
Not only in that moment or day ... But for days ... Week's ... Months or even years.
Here's my dilemma .... Its hard not to hold people accountable for OUR own personal feelings .... ESPECIALLY when they are not holding themselves accountable.
As I said I've been on both ends .... While receiving these ugly words I felt many many things .... And even though I may have forgiven them and moved forward (so I thought) I realize that I did not forgive myself for a. allowing what they said to affect me & b. not moving forward .... See I clearly didn't move forward because I still harbor these thoughts in my head and they prohibit me from doing or saying certain things without fear of rejection .... I'm ALSO already rejecting myself .... Defeating the whole dayeum purpose.
I can't control what people say .... What they may do .... But I encourage you all to TRY & consider ALL damage your words may cause BEFORE giving them life.
Just as a rape or burglary damages are long term ... If not life term .... Words can have the same shelf life.
Adhere to the wise saying ... If you have nothing nice to say .... Try saying nothing at all.
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